My last lesson talked about how you need to choose your friends wisely. This one is a little harsher because you think every friend you have is going to be your friend forever. The problem is life happens. I have tried to stay in contact with every friend I have made, but usually, what you find out is the ones who are the good ones will be there even if they are not a friend you talk to every day.
I have friends I talk to almost every day. I have friends I talk to once or twice a week. I have friends I talk to once a month. It doesn't matter how much you talk to them, the true ones will be there even if it has been years.
Recently, you guys know I reconnected with Levette. I worked with her for three years when I lived in Washington, D.C. When I moved to Allentown, I would talk to her once a week, then once a month and then we were down to exchanging Christmas cards. One day, I decided life was too short to exchange Christmas cards, so I called her.
We talked like we had never missed a day. The first time I saw her after all those years, we both cried. After seeing her, I realized she was one of those friends who was always going to be there for me. Nothing had changed.
It is not always going to be like that. There are going to be friends you had for a season of your life and then one day you will either move, get married or start having children and they will be doing the same thing in another part of the country.
If they are a good enough friend, they will be there no matter how connected you are with them at every new phase of your life. If they were just your friend for a season, there is nothing wrong with that either. It means you were meant to be friends at that time in your life.
I have another friend, Denise, who I also worked with in D.C. We were great friends during that time. We spent time on weekends together and ate lunch together almost every day for three years. When I moved back to PA, she moved to Africa. I reconnected with her about ten years ago and we would talk once in a while, but soon that faded again. I really wanted to stay friends with her, but there was something missing. It wasn't like it used to be.
I am grateful we had the time we did together, and I know it was probably meant to be just a season for us.
Enjoy the good friends you have at this moment, because you don't know what tomorrow holds. You have a better chance of holding onto them for longer if you are the kind of friend to them that you want them to be to you.