"It matters not what you accomplish," said someone, "it matters only that you try."
I've been thinking about this. I'm pretty sure I was raised to believe just the opposite. Or, close to it's opposite. Two messages came through loud and clear. Both have haunted me for much of my adult life.
The first is, "It matters what you accomplish."
The second? "It not only matters that you try, but you don't seem to be trying hard enough!"
I'm pretty sure today, it DOES NOT matter what I accomplish. Only that I give it my best. Furthermore, I'm trying hard. And, this "hard" is enough.
I did not always feel this way, however. Which has been my source of unhappiness. I grew up believing, no matter how hard I tried, I could never quite make it.
It was an exhausting way to live, remnants of which haunt me still today. I suspect, too, most of you reading this were raised similarly. If you think about it, however, what could you ever do to make yourself more valuable than you are already? So, you try harder and harder still. And, all for what? To be more valuable? To be more accomplished?
Divine grace is that moment in life when the gift of who you ARE has freed you from the bondage of who you're trying to BE.
So, today, as Mark Nepo has so beautifully put it:
"Center yourself, and with each breath, put aside your accomplishments. Breathe deeply, and with each breath, put aside the things you haven't accomplished. Sit in the center of your being without these uniforms of goodness and know that you are as beautiful as a mountain or a river."
This is the secret of happiness.
Is this love? Is this love? Is this love? Is this love that I'm feeling?
How do you know when you are really in love? First of all, you would not have to ask the question. Love is knowing, it is not a condition or state of mind. When you are loving, you are not doubting, judging or fearing; you are in a state of acceptance. Yo accept yourself first, for who and what you are, and then the person you love, without question. You do not want to fix him, change him, control him or help him. You want for the person you love exactly what you want for yourself. When you are in love, you feel vulnerable and know that it is okay. You do not hide your feelings, change them to fix what you think the other person wants, and you do not question what you feel. When you are in love, you give, expecting nothing in return, not even love. Love is an inner process between you and yourself that you want to share with someone, everyone. Love is free. If your quest is to own, control, hold on to, protect, or take care of someone, they cannot be free and you are not in love. Love is never wrong, seldom r
"Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal." ~ Pamela Vaull Starr
Romans 8:31 - "If God is for us, who can be against us?"
I was reading Spurgeon's sermon on this verse. His interpretation is very predictable for his time. He was a Calvinist, which means this verse to him pointed straight at predestination. In other words, he interpreted this verse to mean that God was only for the chosen people, not everyone.
I don't see it that way at all. What I see is not a question of whether or not God is for us. I look at it as a statement of fact. God is for us because we are all a part of God. How could your own self be against you?
This verse then becomes abundantly clear. "If God is for us," which of course He is because He can't be any other way, then no one "can be against us."
Anyone, being "against" you is just your perception of what they are. No one is against you. Rather, people are only "for themselves." They are ego-minded and think of their own problems and agendas. If you feel as though someone is against you, what you are really feeling is their ego protecting itself and therefore, leaving you, if you agree to, feel like you are being attacked.
What is really going on is their ego has been bruised. Their past so-called failures leave them in so much pain that the only choice they have is to lash out in order to make themselves feel better. If they can find something wrong with you, they can start to rebuild their bruised ego. It really has nothing to do with you at all.
We want to believe we are being mistreated, because it also serves our ego to believe we are that important in someone else's experience, whether it is positive or negative. Unfortunately, it is not the case. Again, someone else's words or actions have nothing to do with you.
Like the expression, "Hurting people hurt people." It should say, "Hurting people only hurt people who want to be hurt." If you like the feeling of being hurt, you can find it anywhere. If you don't like the feeling of being hurt, then you get to decide how you want to feel.
Well, Mr. Spurgeon, I hate to ruin such a well thought out sermon from 1864, but I have to totally disagree with you.
God is always for us and no one is ever against us.
My name is Michelle. I have six children and 7 grandchildren. This blog is about what I have learned in my 52 years here. So far, it's this simple - I thought I needed to figure out everything - turns out I don't.